Published in Ascent Publication·PinnedWhat If We’re All Wrong?Humans don’t have a great track record of ‘knowing it all’ — We have all seen the videos of a certain president who proclaims that he knows “more about [blank] than anybody.” Whatever it is — trade, ISIS, technology, walls, military, spray tans — he knows more than the so-called experts. And we all laugh. But do we act much differently in…Life6 min read
Dec 11, 2021My Statement on the Passing of Senator Bob Dole2.9K27Barack ObamaObama wrote this glowing eulogy because Dole was part of the "club" — the group of rich, powerful…Obama wrote this glowing eulogy because Dole was part of the "club" — the group of rich, powerful, and influential– and where 99.9% of us don’t belong. The truth is that people in the elite – whether they are diametrically opposed or not – have more in common with each…2 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·Oct 22, 2021Stop the Meaningless and Empty Life UpgradesInstead, focus your limited resources on having more experiences. — Yesterday, I was perusing the fancy furniture website, Room & Board, thinking about how I could redecorate my living room. Our rug and couch are getting a little old, at least to me, and we are fortunate to have some money saved. …Inspiration5 min read
Published in Polyamory Today·Jun 10, 2021How Opening Our Almost Perfect Marriage Brought Us Even CloserIt was scary at first, but now I would never go back. — I’ll never forget the night when my husband confronted me after finding my profile on Grindr, a gay dating and hookup app. I had never cheated on him, but I still felt put in a corner. …Polyamory7 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·Jun 3, 2021Why Simplicity is the Key to a Happy ExistenceWe should focus on our internal values, not just what society tells us is important. — Recently, I was in a small social setting with people who seemed to be having a contest — with me as a bystander — for who had the fancier, better life. Though these were definitely good people, I had to wonder whether they were coming at these topics from a…Life5 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·May 16, 2021The Lonesome Life by the RiverReflections on the fragility of existence, both plant & human. — I’m sitting alone by a river in my camping chair in the middle of the San Juans, listening to the fierceness of spring snowmelt, and trying to figure out the reason the water is rippling where it’s rippling. I picked this spot in particular because I knew that something —…Existentialism4 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·Dec 24, 2020How My Cat Snapped Me Out of My Holiday BluesShe doesn’t worry, despite the imperfections in her life. — Have you ever noticed that cats don’t notice themselves in mirrors? At least mine doesn’t. I always wondered why they weren’t more fascinated by their own image or even thought it was another cat they could play with. Heck, my cat will play with her own tail. Then it hit…Cats5 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·Dec 21, 2020Somewhere, An Alien Race ThrivesWhereas human beings, here on Earth, are immobilized by pettiness and the religion of personal accountability. — Sometimes, all I can do is imagine it: A more-sophisticated extraterrestrial traversing inch by inch through my night sky, connecting dots that my little eyes cannot resolve as two separate and distinct objects, because they are so far away. While I sit in my little house, wondering what my finite…Fantasy6 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·Sep 19, 2020Why We Should Not Give Up On the World — At Least, Not YetHow I reconcile my desire to go off the grid with my need to make positive change. — Last week, I was driving on a dirt road in the barren desert of eastern Utah, where I was looking for a place to park my car for the night. Arches National Park was “full,” and the lighted sign there said to check back in three hours. I said, screw…Culture8 min read
Published in Drove Examiner·Jul 19, 2020We Need to Hear Other Opinions, Especially Among People Who Share GoalsYou don’t have to like it, but you aren’t allowed to shut off the mike. — Back in 1896, the owner of The New York Times stated a goal was “to make of the columns of The New York Times a forum for the consideration of all questions of public importance, and to that end to invite intelligent discussion from all shades of opinion.” …Culture8 min read
